@karen @dirb @djsumdog
technically speaking, Pleroma FE already lets you disable likes/repeat counters and notifications.
overall, the problem is that half of mastodon S2S is out of spec, and badly designed.
for example, Mastodon has federated abuse reports, but just picks a random actor on the instance to send them.
it'd be nice to support federated abuse reports that are compatible with mastodon, so that you can send and receive reports about things like spam, but having a real point of contact is also useful for asking follow questions and so on...